I think it’s the show creators who didn’t understand the full scope of the issues in this episode. I just kind of block it out as far as understanding Julian’s character, because it entirely does not work.
Yeah, I think the writers missed the huge blinking neon lights that said “HUGE ISSUES DO NOT GO HERE”. They probably wanted to make an episode about Julian’s loneliness and went wrong somewhere down the line.
I always pictures Julian to be a harmless puppy, specially in the first seasons. But there WAS an issue with him being unable to accept Jadzia Dax saying no to him. But Dax could always enforce her rejection, since she was independent and strong. So I don’t think its completely out of character either. It can be a disturbing depiction of how someone that doesn’t want to be rejected finds a woman that can’t or wont do that.
But I really, really hope that isn’t what the writers intended to convey.